Hey all! I'm Courtney Macavinta, co-author of the best-selling book for teen girls RESPECT and founder of Respect Rx, which is devoted to empowering girls, women and their advocates to boost self-respect, sisterhood and social change in their lives—and our world.
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Praise
What Girls Are Saying...
Here's what girls have to say about RESPECT, Respect Rx and our Rallies and workshops:
“You coming to my school today made me learn a lot about how important it really is to respect yourself and others, and also how important it is to be real and yourself. I'm going to start trying to reach my dreams and passions and encourage my friends and peers to do the same just like you encouraged us today.”
“Mind-opening…”
“At the assembly, people in my grade that I thought would never speak up actually talked, and I really enjoyed hearing what they had to say. It made me see them in a different way. I really liked what you did, and I think people might actually change from it.”
“Empowering…”
“I learned a lot when you came to my school today. I was extremely surprised about how much models get Photoshop-ed, and it made me realize that I don’t have to be like those models to feel good about myself. I also loved how you shared your story from when you were a little kid. I think it touched everyone’s hearts.”
“Life-changing…”
“You showed me that I can be what I want to be, and that you can be yourself, any time, any place. I learned that none of us are perfect, and that we need to be okay with ourselves. Thanks so much!”
“I felt like I was in such a secure environment that I could talk about [anything]. I am happy to say I took away a feeling of self-confidence and inner joy from your presentation.”
“Courtney is an inspiration.”
“The thing I loved the most was when you told us to think into the future, and our future selves gave us one word to remember. I thought of the word ‘love.’ It made me realize that whenever I think times are rough that someone loves me for being ME!!! Your assembly today also made me remember that I need to stop being who everyone else wants me to be, and just be who I want to be. Thank you for setting me straight and realizing the important things, and not just the foolish things that seem to fill teenagers’ minds. You inspired me today!”
“Today I learned that respect comes when you respect yourself.”
I saw your presentation and it really helped me out a lot. I got your book as a gift from my mother about a year ago, and since I read it, I've had such a better way of dealing with problems with friends. I learned that although it might be hard to stand up to someone, in the end, its worth it. Now I won't be sad everyday because of mean things that she said about me, and it was all because of your book! So I wanted to say thanks for coming to my school. It really helped to be reminded that I need to speak up.
~Amber
I was really inspired by your talk. I came home today and looked in the mirror and was surprised to find that I was actually proud of who I saw. I think it’s because of what you said about respecting yourself and being happy with who you are. Thank you so much for helping me achieve a better self-esteem in just one talk.
~Jordan
the 7 respect basics are great and every girl should live by them.
~Victoria
courtney i really loved your meeting that day and i wish we had more opportunities like that in school and even during school have you come and talk to our whole school. You should give it a thought lol i'm sure you wouldn't but my school could use it especially with the name calling and well pretty much that and fighting you know around that category. Thanks for taking your time to give me these pointers.
~Amanda
I was one of the girls at your Respect event. I just wanted to tell you that I think you are an amazing woman that made me look at a lot of things differently(for the better!) I did not leave this e-mail address on the sheet simply because I don't have one, this address is my mom's but you can reply to this one. If possible I would like to know how I could get a free copy of your book as you had told us in Lacrosse. I'll be honest with you and say that I at first went to your event with my school's guidance counselors to get a free day off of school, I didn't really know much about it at that time, and when I walked into the building and saw that you were Courtney Macavinta, I was impressed(if thats the word I'm meaning) As soon as I saw my surroundings, I knew that this was going to be something I wanted to know and listen to. With my experiences with things such as Respect events like yours, there was always the beautiful model like person pretty much saying, "you have to respect yourself, your body and mind." and it just didn't seem so "realistic" coming from someone like that. I saw that you were the author of this book and thought, "wow, that woman is beautiful, inside and out. I can tell she respects herself including her environment and surroundings and now she's helping other girls to do the same, and that makes her beautiful." The fact that you were so laid back and honest made me comfortable in listening to things being said by you and my peers and it made me comfortable in realizing, life isn't perfect nor is anyone. Everyone has their flaws and that makes us what we are and gives us our own personalities. I just want to simply say thank-you for what you're doing for the female gender today and I hope your wise words, feelings, and outlooks get out to each and every person in the world.
~Jeannie
I was one of the girls that was at that respect workshop. I've been doing good since then I've been trying to help other girls with their problems and i have been getting help with my problems too. I'm doing a lot better. I was wondering if maybe you could send me a book please because i would like to read it and let other people read it too so they know.
~Daisy
You spoke to a group of girls on Friday last week. I felt really good after I talked to you because you had so many good points.
~Chelsea
i attended the girls for a change summit and i was in your 7 respect basics workshop. i found it to be very helpful and i look forward to reading your book on respect. i keep the respect by allowing everyone to say what they want to say, allowing everyone to express their feelings and thoughts, and by setting my barriers up[ to the disrespectful people and their actions. i am maturing , becoming more focused on my goals as well as more aware of society's expectations of me as an individual. i have pretty much defined what it takes to have a healthy mind and body. i respect myself by eating properly, expanding my horizons, cherishing my friendships, being sensitive to the needs and feelings of others, and having fun in life. i was and still kind of am one of those girls who were so wrapped up in what the looked like in comparison to their friends and being obsessed with her body image so much that her friends have stopped trying to convince her that she's not actually fat at all...and after reading this section on this webpage i finally understand what my friends and family have been trying to tell me all along...so i took your advice and decided to clear my mind of all the negative thoughts i had about my body's appearance. I stopped using the " language of fat" and i started complimenting my friends on their achievements and encouraged them when they were down. i really feel that reading this article helped me with my feelings and opinions of my own body and others around me. I really believe that what was said in this article is true.. you can't be a role model if you don't love yourself... i just want to say thank you for helping me feel better about myself!
~Charity
your book really helped me. i've changed a lot this year. i'm hanging around more positive people and dressing how i want to and doing my homework. i'm getting straight As. i know that i have a lot going for me now. i even spoke at a fundraiser for a girls for a change and it felt good.
~Monica
Your book is an inspiration!
~Nicole
Thank you so much for your talk. It really motivated me in lots of ways.
~Shio
Your book is helpful to everyone in some sort of way. Thank you for putting all your time and energy into helping everyone.
~Roxy
I learned a lot about respect!
~Leslie
Thank you so much for talking with us. I will read the book!
~Nicole
Thank you for teaching us all about sisterhood.
~Nakita
Thanks for teaching us about friendship and respect.
~Brooke
I had so much fun at your workshop. It really changed my mind about some things.
~Stephanie
Thank you for the book and for talking with us. I read a lot and LOVE it!
~Mandi
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