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- Tao of the Defiant Woman by CJ Golden
- Girls Inc. Presents: You're Amazing!: A No-Pressure Guide to Being Your Best Self by Claire Mysko
- All Made Up: A Girl's Guide to Seeing Through Celebrity Hype and Celebrating Real Beauty by Audrey D. Brashich
- Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters: The Frightening New Normalcy of Hating Your Body by Courtney E. Martin
- Women Warriors by Teena Apeles
- Packaging Girlhood by Sharon Lamb & Lyn Mikel Brown
- The Price of Privilege by Dr. Madeline Levine
- Do I Look Fat In This? and A Very Hungry Girl by Jessica Weiner
- The Real Truth About Teens and Sex by Sabrina Weill
- The Body Project by Joan Jacobs Brumberg
- 101 Ways to Help Your Daughter Love Her Body by Brenda Lane
- Dads and Daughters by Joe Kelly
- Branded: The Buying and Selling of Teenagers by Alissa Quart
- GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Queer and Questioning Teens by Kelly Huegel
- Deal With It! by Esther Drill, et al.
- The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
- Don't Give It Away! by Iyanla Vanzant
- 33 Things Every Girl Should Know About Women's History edited by Tonya Bolden
- Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou
- Perfectionism: What's Bad About Being Too Good? by Miriam Adderholdt & Jan Goldberg
- Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher
- Revolution from Within by Gloria Steinem
- Schoolgirls by Peggy Orenstein
- Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons
- Grassroots: A Field Guide for Feminist Activism by Jennifer Baumgardner & Amy Richards
- To Be Real: Telling the Truth and Changing the Face of Feminism edited by Rebecca Walker
- What Are My Rights? by Thomas A. Jacobs
- When Nothing Matters Anymore: A Survival Guide for Depressed Teens by Bev Cobain
- Adios, Barbie by Ophira Edut
- 101 Ways to Help Your Daughter Love Her Body by Brenda Lane Richardson & Elane Rehr
- Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman
- The Teenage Liberation Handbook by Grace Llewellyn
- Be True to Yourself: A Daily Guide for Teenage Girls by Amanda Ford & Shannon Berning
- Blue Jean: What Young Women Are Thinking, Saying, and Doing by Sherry S. Handel
- Life Lists for Teens by Pamela Espeland
- Meeting at the Crossroads by Carol Gilligan & Lyn Mikel Brown
- Perfectionism: What's Bad About Being Too Good? by Miriam, Ph.D. Elliott, et al.
- Real Girl Real World: Tools for Finding Your True Self by Heather M. Gray, et al.
Teachers
Advocates, Programs, Special Events, Teachers
Respect Rally
Watch this video about our founding girl Respect program. Co-ed Rally video coming soon!
Respect Rally from Respect Rx on Vimeo.
The Respect Rally is a half-day conference—followed by a 24-session program guide (The Respect Keep It Going! Kit)—that empowers teens to boost self-respect and spread respect for all through The Respect Basics.
The Rally is based on our best-selling book for teen girls, RESPECT: A Girl's Guide to Getting Respect & Dealing When Your Line Is Crossed, which has been featured by CNN, National Public Radio, USA Today, Glamour, Teen Vogue and others.
Based on the success of the girl program, we have now created a co-ed Rally for teen boys, too, and a college program! The Rally can also be formatted for parents and teen advocates. For middle school students, we offer Respect Connect, a 90-minute program.
After attending the Rally: 98% of 500 teens surveyed understood the difference between respect and disrespect (up from 51% prior to attending the Rally)…90% of teens respected each other as equals (up from 65%).…82% felt equipped to make positive choices and act as role models (up from 42%).
There are 3 ways to bring a Respect Rally to your site:
1. Book a Respect Rally: Respect Rx can lead a Rally for your campus or organization.
2. Get trained: Attend a train-the-trainer and learn how to be a Respect Rally Leader. Deliver the program for your campus or non-profit organization year after year!
3. Do both: Respect Rx can lead your Rally and then train you—and the teens or young adults you serve—how to lead the program at your site in the future.
Program Snapshot: How it can work for you. (PDF)
INFORMATION KITS
Teen Girls (PDF)
Co-ed Program (PDF)
Women ages 18-24 or College (PDF)
1. Book a Respect Rally: Respect Rx can lead a Rally for your campus or organization.
2. Get trained: Attend a train-the-trainer and learn how to be a Respect Rally Leader. Deliver the program for your campus or non-profit organization year after year!
3. Do both: Respect Rx can lead your Rally and then train you—and the teens or young adults you serve—how to lead the program at your site in the future.
Program Snapshot: How it can work for you. (PDF)
INFO KITS
Teen Girls (PDF)
Co-ed Program (PDF)
Advocates, School, Special Events, Teachers
Respect Rally Kick Off
by Jen Uribe, Respect Rx Programs Assistant
September marked the launch of our new program: The Respect Rally, which inspire girls to change their worlds—inside and out.
After holding a Rally in Salem, OR., we led a Rally for Notre Dame High School San Jose, CA. As our volunteers, teachers and other supporters of Respect Rx were coming in and helping us out in the gym we could not wait to meet the 600 high school girls! As time flew by, it was finally time for the first slide of our rally, and the climate of the room could not have been more empowering.
There were 600 pairs of beautiful eyes staring onto stage, waiting to hear what the Rally leaders (Courtney, Respect Rx founder, and Jennifer Davidson, founder of Reality Check Coaching) were all about. Well it did not take long for them to fall in love with both of these empowering women and just seeing how both their positive energies work together. Once the Respect Rx team got the crowd going these girls were dying to speak out. The girls sat in pods of 12 and did activities focused on building respect in three categories: Myself, My Relationships and My World. After each activity, lines with more than 20 girls would form when we asked to come up and speak to their classmates. At one point girls even spontaneously broke into dancing around the gym in a big train to the song "Unwritten."
We could not have been more thrilled with how things went. It was all of our dreams come true. We could tell the girls were learning and yearning for more, which made every activity even more exciting. These girls were not only taking in all of our information but they were also teaching one another the core concepts of respect from their own unique experiences. This was incredibly inspiring both to the girls themselves and the Respect Rx team because this is exactly what we are all about: girls teaching girls!
We had girls write up their "Respect Promise" and here's what a few said:
To respect myself more, I will:
Appreciate and embrace what I have, take care of myself better, and think more positively about myself.
Accept myself for who I am, and not what others want me to be.
Look at myself everyday and tell myself I am beautiful on the inside and outside and no one can undermine me.
Overall, the day was spent with a variety of emotions from a variety of sources, but we can all agree that the rally was a huge success! We want to thank all of our supporters and we can't wait for our next rally, because we want to reach out to as many girls as we possibly can.
Advocates, Parents, Programs, Respect Rx Groups, Teachers
RESPECT Book Clubs
Along with our fabulous Respect Rx Groups that are just for girls, may we also suggest: the RESPECT Book Club.
RESPECT Book Clubs are casual, fun and a place to be real with each other and share feelings and issues about self-respect, relationships and making healthy choices. You can create the club just for moms and daughters, girls and their big sisters or woman mentors, or you can modify the format and create a special dads and daughters version!
Some suggestions for getting started:
Step No. 1: Set up your book club. Before your first meeting, you’ll want to:
• Select an appropriate venue for the book club (library, members’ houses, school, etc).
• Recruit a dedicated group of mothers and daughters, for example.
• Pick a recurring date and time for the club to meet.
• Distribute information on how to get the book for those who haven’t already.
• Appoint a moderator to lead the first discussion. After that, rotate!
• Design a way to keep members informed about meeting details and reading assignments, such as an email group or a phone tree.
Step No. 2: Create a Respect Pact. In the spirit of the book, it’s important to set the tone for the group with a Respect Pact. You can design this pact in the group’s first meeting and read it at the beginning of every meeting as ritual. The pact can address:
• How you’ll show each other respect.
• How you’ll share responsibilities and organizational tasks.
• The way that daughters will support their mothers, and vice versa.
• The promise of privacy—what is said during book club meetings stays within the group (no post-club gossip!).
• What resources you’ll approve to be used in the meeting, such as trusted helplines or other books besides RESPECT when you're done reading it.
Step No. 3: Try the sample meeting format: Here’s one suggested way to set up each book club meeting:
• Form a circle with chairs or on the floor.
• Start things off by reading the Respect Pact (see above).
• Each week can focus on one of the 12 chapters in RESPECT. Come to the meeting having read the corresponding content for the week. You can also take turns reading sections of a chapter during the meeting.
• Start off with a discussion round, in which members can share how the content relates to their lives. If you’re reading the book during the meeting, have each person share after they’ve read. Make sure everyone has a chance to share and try to avoid giving advice if a personal issue comes up. Instead, remember that each girl and woman can figure out her own life. Listen, ask open-ended questions but don't try to fix each other.
• Engage the group in an activity, such as one directly from the book. You might do a group activity or a quiet journaling activity. Another option is to agree to do the journaling as an assignment for the next meeting.
• Close the meeting by reading Your Rights together.
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Advocates, School, Teachers
10 Ways to Use RESPECT In the Classroom
RESPECT was written for girls, but the book can teach all teens (and adults) how to build mutual respect. Here's how to use the book in the classroom or workshops for teens:
1. Build Self-Respect
Use The 7 Respect Basics to show teens how respect is connected to everything—from their choices to how they feel about themselves to their future success.
2. Foster Mutual Respect
Help students set higher standards for how to give and get respect using the do's and don'ts in Chapter 1. Also, work with students to create respect pacts for their classrooms (see Chapters 6 and 11).
3. Encourage Healthy Choices
Mentor teens about how to make self-respecting choices that honor their values, gut instincts, and boundaries. Chapters 1 through 3 and 8 are perfect for class discussions on how the mind-body connection contributes to a teen’s overall success and sense of self-worth.
4. Teach Media Literacy
Have a class discussion about media myths and stereotypes that fuel disrespect and gender inequality. Use activities from the "Take Back the Media" section in Chapter 4.
5. Promote Equal Rights
Advance equality and self-respect starting with a discussion of "Your Rights" and "Inside the –isms" (see Chapter 1). "REtroSPECT" sidebars throughout the book are also handy civil rights summaries that are great for kick-starting broader discussions.
6. End Sexual Harassment and Bullying
Set the tone for mutual respect by discussing with students the effects sexual harassment and bullying. Inform students about your school’s anti-harassment policy. Chapter 11 offers steps students can take to report harassment and to promote a safe learning environment for all.
7. Raise Awareness About Abuse and Dating Violence
Use the clear definitions and examples of abuse in Chapter 9, to discuss the effects of abuse and how students can get help, report crimes, or support a friend. Also discuss the difference between disrespectful and healthy relationships as described in Chapters 5 and 7.
8. Sponsor Self-Defense
To decrease violence, bullying and abuse, help teens learn how to de-escalate situations, how to defend themselves, and how to get help. Share the tips and strategies in Chapter 10. Also use the evidence presented to lobby your school to teach self-defense techniques in P.E. class.
9. Inspire Political Action
Using Chapter 12, you can show teens how to take action to spread respect and become future leaders. Teachers can supplement government and history lesson plans with activities listed in "Make Your Voice Heard" such as how to write letters to lawmakers or start a campaign for change.
10. Advocate Getting Help
Referencing "Help!" sidebars throughout the book, you can encourage teens to get help when it comes to dating violence, eating disorders, abuse, harassment, or everyday dilemmas they're going through. Teach students how to find reliable support and resources using the "More Info" section (page 204) as a guide.
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